Stop Asking For Permission To Be Yourself.-

As a woman whom has been on a path to find herself over the past 3 years. I must share that amongst the many things I find intolerable in the pursuit of unfolding my dreams, is the irrevocable discomfort I experience from people who have a hard time understanding how liberating it feels to own oneself, not only for your own benefit but also through a discipline, an art form, through creativity or spiritualism. 


As many of you know I have worked as a muse for the past 3 years. Being a muse has always come across to many as a mysterious job. I’ve found myself ignoring people who often felt scrupulous about my lifestyle, at times I have been left definitely baffled at their assumptions. 


WHAT BOTHERS ME ABOUT OWNING YOURSELF AS A WOMAN IS THE PEOPLE WHO FEEL AS IF YOU HAVE TO ASK FOR THEIR PERMISSION TO BE YOURSELF OR YOU HAVE TO FOLLOW SOME TYPE OF TRADITION THAT WAS INSTILLED BY GOD KNOWS WHO. 


Many times I had to make it clear that I didn’t become a nude model for the attention of men. I have felt inclined by nude art and I have used it to express a part of me that was fearless and at the same time vulnerable.Therefore, I feel sorry for anyone who is stuck in a linear cycle, who incessantly craves the opinions of others to feel valuable/accepted. From the time I was little, I’ve known that I am what I say I am, and that I don’t need anyone’s approval to decide who to be.


The structures in society promoting that a woman have to be granted permission to be herself must be eliminated, forgotten and frown upon. It is completely absurd to me that in these times, still, women have to explain their lifestyle choices to people who continue to bash them for their new found freedom, because it doesn’t correspond to their idealistic lifestyle or societal norms, by which many have not benefited or contributed to the evolvement of anyone. 


On the other hand, we have a group of men who are still trapped by the damage of patriarchy, whom have not yet come to the realization that women aren’t surrendering to their commands as they used to, 20 years ago. Those are the men whom are often eager to use derogatory language to insult women who refuse to abide to their rules, feed their ego, and selfish demands. 


WOMEN WHO CHOSE TO OWN THEMSELVES DON’T NECESSARILY HATE MEN. IT IS OUR BIRTH RIGHT AS A HUMAN BEING TO DESIRE TOTAL CONTROL OF WHO WE ARE AND WHOM WE WANT TO BECOME. THIS RIGHT SHOULDN’T BE POLICED, REGULATED, OR QUESTIONED BY ANY MEANS, AS LONG AS WE ARE NOT HURTING YOU OR ANY SPECIES ON THIS PLANET. WE HAVE TO COME TO THE REALIZATION THAT EACH AND EVERYONE MOVE AT THEIR OWN FREQUENCY. AND THAT’S SOMETHING NO ONE WILL EVER BE ABLE TO CHANGE OR REPLACE.


The right that I hold dearly over my body is forever my own. And it is up to me to own my body, to use it to empower, to explore it in ways that fit my character and individualistic desires, thus owning oneself through any discipline shouldn’t be subjected to anyone’s permission. 


I mean I don’t think people have yet to realize how ridiculous it sounds to ask another being just like you, A HUMAN BEING JUST LIKE YOU for permission to be. It is ridiculous.


Stop explaining to people who you are. At this point in my life I have no desire in defending my life’s choices.  I am only concerned by evolving to my higher self and contributing to the greater good of this planet. And if there’s one thing I refuse to do, is asking for permission to own myself. 

Jodelle Duverseau